For my first official post I want to share about mine and my husband’s story; it goes hand in hand pretty much! I hope, as you read what I have to share, that you’ll come to find that it is not simply due to an uncontrollable impulse. There is an incompleteness and much more, within those that struggle with any addiction.

My husband has been an amazing man that has battled the pull of pornography since he was four years old. He remembers, unfortunately, for the first time when he viewed an inappropriate video and has since caused a nonstop internal battle. At the innocent age of four years old, my husband’s friend thought to share a video with explicit content. Once he saw this, it began his uphill climb against something that perverts the sanctity of intimacy. In the year 2014 he knew that if he ever wanted to love and respect a woman as his wife that there needed to be a change. So, he sought help in refraining from searching for pornography and began his recovery process.

On our first date in April of 2016 my husband opened up to me immediately because he knew that this was a vital matter to be transparent about. There was not much that I had to say, and over the past two and a half years that we’ve been together I have come to learn that this is something that tears at my poor husband day after day. This is no walk in the park for me either, but it has been amazing for my husband and I to grow closer together and increase our love for one another as we hold strong in this fight as one.

I now take a brief moment to speak to those that may be going through this struggle of overcoming an addiction to pornography; there is hope and there is so much more to yourself or your spouse than you know. This is not something that you have to let control your life. You can choose to fight, there is no marriage that doesn’t deserve to be fought for! We have grown closer by overcoming this and there is a way that you too can achieve happiness even when you go through these battles as long as all involved are willing to fight.

Until next time!

-Aubrey W.